Nia Long On Her Pregnancy: “I Honestly Asked God For This”

Actress Nia Long recently bared her beautiful baby bump on November’s cover of EBONY magazine. But it hasn’t been an easy road for the Soul Food star, who is currently expecting a child with NBA boyfriend Ime Udoka. She explains how she turned to faith when doctors told her conception would prove difficult.

“I honestly asked God for this,” the 40-year-old actress reveals. “I remember I was driving home from the doctor, and I called Ime, and I was like, ‘Babe, I’m really kind of sad right now … the doctor actually said if I wanted to have more children, it would be hard.’”

Although the unsettling news was hurtful to hear, Nia – who is also mom to 10-year old Massai Zhivago Dorsey II – and Ime remained hopeful that they would one day add a baby to their family.

“The next time [Ime] came to visit, he said, ‘I don’t believe that.’ I said, ‘You don’t?’ He said, ‘No.’ And I said, ‘Good, me neither,’” the Boyz n the Hood alum recalls. “Then I got pregnant.”

Due within the next month or so, Nia feels that it is the woman’s ultimate decision when she should have a baby and that the power should come from her rather than the medical profession.

The medical [profession] tries to tell every woman, ‘Have your babies before 40 because you shouldn’t have children after 40. Society tells us, ‘Get married before 30, because no man wants a woman after 30.’”

She also feels that some things in life are definitely worth the wait!

You are not half the woman you’re gonna be until you turn 30. You’re not even half of that woman yet. So I think if we’d just take our time as women, and do what comes natural to us and for us, we would make fewer mistakes.”

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  • ER

    I like Nia. I hope her and Ime have a baby girl and name her something that has three letters in it, haha.

  • mia

    Amen sister!

  • Anonymous 2

    I think what she’s saying has a lot of merit (regarding societal pressures on women). That being said there are actual physical constraints that occur as we get older that impedes the ability to conceive. It’s just not some one-size-fits-all type thing. And we’re seeing older women have children more and more each day. Ultimately I think she’s right though. I’m 32 and have not had any children yet. Due to distance (temporarily) between my partner and I and wanting to fulfill certain goals first, we won’t start having kids until I’m 34 or 35. 35 being the number that send alarms ringing in ob/gyn offices across the globe. I’m not gonna stress it too much as (1) as far as I know the issues beginning at age 35 are only incremental and not substantial enough that one should just place a “closed for business” sign at their uterus and (2) I lead a healthy lifestyle (which will be even more healthy by the time I reach 34/35). So here’s to us old-timer mothers and would-be/will-be mothers! =)

    • Maya Yuno

      I very much agree. I think of all the men and their families in the war, marines,. Sometimes waiting is the only alternative. Wishing the best to Nia.

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