What’s The Deal With Attachment Parenting? Celebrities Jump On The Bandwagon

By Sherri Kuhn at AllParenting.com

Attachment parenting seems to be on everyone’s radar lately, but it’s not a new idea. The basic concepts behind attachment parenting have been around for centuries in traditional cultures. So what is it all about and what celebs are on board? Keep reading to find out the basics.

When you hear the phrase attachment parenting, what comes to mind first? Many people immediately picture mothers breastfeeding 5-year-olds or families who all share the same bed. And while some families do that, it’s not the whole story. The central focus of this parenting style — developed by pediatrician William Sears, M.D. –emphasizes the importance of the connection between parent and child, and being attuned and sensitive to the individual needs of your baby.

There are seven basic attachment tools – referred to as the Baby B’s — that may be used together or individually in whatever way works best for each individual family. These tools are birth bonding and breastfeeding, the use of babywearing, bed sharing (sometimes referred to as co-sleeping), belief in your baby’s cries, beware of baby trainers, and balance and boundaries. While the focus is primarily on the mother-infant relationship, bonding with dad is also an important part of attachment parenting.

Singer Alanis Morissette is a big advocate of attachment parenting, recently stating in an interview on Good Morning America that she plans to breastfeed her 17-month-old son Ever until he decides to stop — even if he’s six-years-old. She also rarely left the house until her son was 6-months-old, and hardly ever let him cry.

Actress Mayim Bialik, former star of “Blossom” who now appears in CBS’s “Big Bang Theory” also practices this style of parenting. She has written a book about attachment parenting called “Beyond the Sling.” She felt that natural, child-led approach advocated by Dr. Sears not only felt right emotionally, but also made sense intellectually and instinctually.

Attachment parenting may not be the best style for everyone, but some of the tools may be helpful for anyone who is raising a baby.

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  1. oola

    Attachment parenting is a nice technical terms for the overwhelming human urge to connect with a parent at all costs. It’s primal, it’s about survival, it’s an urge that’s as strong as sex.

  2. As a child psychologist and a mom, one of the things that is so misleading about attachment parenting is the name. It is only called attachment parenting because of the theory it was based upon. It is not called this because it is the only form of parenting which allows parents to develop a secure attachment relationship with their children. There are numerous ways to develop a secure attachment relationship with our kids. I explore more of this myth here for anyone who is interested:

  3. Anon2

    I think people see this: “….being attuned and sensitive to the individual needs of your baby” and start thinking that attachment parenting means spoiling your child, letting them do whatever they want, never saying no…. but nothing could be further from the truth.

  4. Danielle

    The one thing I like about ‘attachment parenting’ is the “follow your instincts” moto, which a lot of parents i meet seem to have lost touch with. Either because they didn’t have a good role model growing up or are just overwhelmed by media and books and other advice. I like any style that is an advocate of breastfeeding and natural ways. I definitely feel that sometimes progress has gone a little too far and we have lost some valuable qualities in humans. But I am a fan of well behaved and polite children and I don’t know that attachment parenting always works in this area. Ive seen many a child overwhelmed by their emotions screaming for some boundaries and their parents just not helping this.
    A book that is really popular at the moment, in the U.K anyway, is ‘Why French Children Don’t Throw Food’. I like their attitude towards discipline or education as they call it. I see quite a lot of American and British children with what the French call ‘Child King’ syndrome and I definitely do not want that quality in my child.

    The other thing is the parents relationship with those who are doing ‘attachment parenting’, I wonder when the children are grown up whether the parents are still able to connect, as for the last 18yrs everything has revolved around the children.

  5. Attachment Theory is not being distinguished from Attachment Parenting. Attachment Theory was developed by John Bowlby in the 50’s and researched by Mary Ainsworth. Bowlby was interested in distinguishing healthy from unhealthy forms of attachment between parent and child. Whether he would think the Sears’ Attachment Parenting was healthy or unhealthy is an open question.
    In any event, there is a distinction between keeping children close because they are happy that way and desire it and keeping them close because we feel pain at their maturation and increased desires for independence and choice. Bowlby evaluated parent-child attachment on a case by case basis, and so should we. One size does not fit all. I have written a parenting book, Smart Love, that carefully distinguishes healthy from unhealthy forms of attachment. (www.smartlovepress.com, http://www.mommydaddyihadabaddream.com).

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