Gena Lee Nolin’s Blog: Can Moms Truly Have It All?

Mom-of-four Gena Lee Nolin is inviting Celebrity Baby Scoop readers along as she shares her life experiences – and asks for advice – as she juggles her busy life with husband Cale Hulse and their four children: Spencer, 16, Caia, 11, Hudson, 6, and Stella, 4.

In her latest guest blog, Gena talks about the illusion of ‘having it all.’ The former Baywatch star talks about the stress and challenges facing moms everywhere – from Hollywood’s leading ladies to everyday women. Continue reading her words of wisdom, and share your thoughts, questions, and advice in the comments.

“Can moms truly have it all?

It’s the question most every working mother inevitably asks herself: can I have it all? The answer you may not be expecting to hear… It depends on your situation and your own definition of ‘having it all.’

Most working women face much more difficult life circumstances. Some are single mothers; many struggle to find any job; others support husbands who cannot find jobs. Many cope with a work life in which day care is either very expensive or unavailable; school schedules do not match work schedules; and schools themselves are failing to educate their children.

Many of these women are worrying not about having it all, but rather holding on to what they do have. Mind you, that’s real life, not Hollywood!

I’m not saying the mothers of the world can’t make it happen — they can and do all the time with the right mindset.

Speaking of Hollywood, almost everyone I know has nannies, personal assistants and chefs. Yes, I said chefs!

However, in my colleagues’ defense, working 15-hour days on set doesn’t exactly make it easy to be the next June Cleaver. It’s incredibly challenging, as it is for all us working moms. You must have help in order to obtain a healthy family life while keeping up with the grind of the entertainment industry.

I was lucky enough to have my mom nanny for me while working full time. I knew I couldn’t care for my son and deliver lines at the same bloody time, so having the best care taker was my number one priority. Don’t forget, I chose to be a working mother, some women don’t have the luxury of picking and choosing their next television series. It was a privilege that I never once took for granted.

All this Hollywood talk brings me to this… I call it ‘funny money.’ You get paid a lot working in this industry. So, it’s really unfair to compare others who are just getting by like my own mother did. She had three of us, divorced, and had no choice but to work hard for everything she got. I respect it, as it was how I was raised and all I knew.

While working with a hectic travel schedule, press, and the stress of having my own series on my shoulders, it was extremely demanding. Ultimately, it cost me a 10-year marriage while giving me extreme mommy guilt. That’s one of the reasons I chose to take a Hollywood break. I wanted to be on the other side of the white picket fence, to wake up with my children, make dinner and be the mother I wasn’t able to be.

Now that I’m back at it again with my upcoming whirlwind schedule, it’s all about balance. This is where my 16-year parental experience comes in handy! I don’t know if you’re like me, but I’m horrible at taking time for myself. I put everyone’s troubles before my own — it can be draining and exhausting at times.

I’ve learned how to become a balanced mom, wife and friend. Also, I am learning my own definition of ‘having it all.’ I can tell you this, it’s certainly not about being on the number one show in the world or being on the next magazine cover. It’s about being present in every thing I do. No matter what adversity life throws at me, my children know how important they are and that I can always be depended on.

I feel blessed to be invited back into a business I truly love. My writing, being a health advocate, a spokeswoman for RLC labs, host, endorse beauty products and author to my new book, Beautiful Inside & Out. Who would’ve thought my forties would be the best part of my life?

My perspective has totally changed as I’ve gotten older and wiser. At the end of the day, we’re all mothers and I firmly believe that’s the true meaning of ‘having it all.’ “

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  • Cara

    Her blogs keep getting better! I like the reference to all mother’s of the world, working and the stay at home mom’s. What draws me to her is her warmth, talking so openly about her marriage and childhood with a working mother. Really great. Thx, Cara

  • Taryn

    This blog talks about the mom’s out there that are struggling like myself. No BS, just the real crap we have to deal with. Respect has gone to a new level for her!

  • jennifer

    She’s more beautiful then I ever remember her being, fyi- that’s a compliment. The content is smart and clever, I really enjoyed this!

  • Tina Frank

    Makes me feel like I’m a normal mom! My kids are both in daycare, because I have to work full time. I have extreme mommy guilt!!! Thank you for writing such a REAL message that’s not masking behind the fake Hollywood life that so many do! This made my day Gina!

  • Melissa

    Hollywood makes it look so easy toteing around 6 kids while looking all fancy! Hey, if I had chefs, nannies and assistants, I’d be a rock star too! Finally a celeb giving us the scoop! No pun intended.

  • Eli

    This lady is impressive, while humble in regard to what it’s all about. Clearly, her GORGEOUS family!

  • Paula

    What a beautiful family!!! They should have a show.

  • Kristen

    I’d watch!!! Hot hubby, something for everyone. Lol

  • Cathy

    What a sweet blog with some serious depth! I enjoyed this very much. Thank you! Cathy PA

  • Jessie

    First, HappyMemorial Day everyone! Gena, so nice to see you back on TV again! We’ve missed you, but understand the break with all those gorgeous children. Best of luck! Fan of yours for years!!! Jessie

  • Fran

    She’s still the hottest chick on Baywatch ever! Ladies love her too. 😉

  • Wendy

    I had a huge crush on Gena!! Beauty and brains are attractive to both sexes! She’s still damn beautiful, damn!

  • Anne Marie

    My hubby loves Gina!!! He’s watched her since The Price Is Right. Looks like everyone digs her, including lesbians!

  • Suzie

    She’s not a bathing suit beauty to me anymore, she’s a smart, gorgeous woman that know’s what time it is! When lesbians like you as much as men you know you’re doing something right. haha

  • Anonymous

    I’m so sick and tired of people ragging on stay at home dads and how dare they be on this site checking stuff out. I saw this on twitter and thought whatever, here I am. It works for us right now with my wife working, until I get things going again and I appreciate you addressing that. Your still smokin hot, but even more I totally respect you!

  • Julie

    I hang on your every word and can’t wait to read more. You have grace and elegance in your writing that we all can relate to. Look forward to more from you! Thanx

  • Suzanne

    I’ve recently read Gena related articles and interviews. It’s hard to image her on a game show or even Baywatch. She’s a brilliant woman whom I’m now a big fan of!

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