Gossip Girl alum Kelly Rutherford recently filed an emergency motion in her ongoing custody battle. Prior to that, she covered the latest issue of Hamptons and opened up about her highly publicized legal issues involving her two kids – Hermés, nearly 8, and Helena, 5 – what it’s been like behind closed doors, and how her children have been doing given the current situation.
On how her kids are doing: “They’re good, but they’re getting older so they’re much more outspoken about their feelings on the situation. They think it’s unfair: they’ve basically been told that I should move to France. I say, ‘Well, you guys are US citizens, and mommy’s a US citizen; your dad was living in the US when we got married and before we got married, and none of us are from France.'”
On how she copes with the ugly custody battle: “I cry in the shower. It’s emotional—just them being here and me wanting to keep them here and be with them every day. I have had to stay strong for them; I have to do my best to stay positive. I’m doing my best to keep my kids healthy through this, and that’s what I focus on every day.”
On her kids living in France with a man who has basically been exiled from this country: “Correct. And we still don’t even know why he was exiled from this country. Because he’s a foreigner, he’s actually being treated better, in some ways, than the tax-paying US citizen. Every evaluator said the children should be with me as their primary parent—that was ignored when the kids were sent to France. Since then, I’ve traveled 60 times back and forth.”
On traveling 60 times back and forth between US & France:” Basically everything I make goes to traveling. This is why I started the Children’s Justice Campaign, along with cofounder Patrice Lenowitz. It’s really to educate people about what’s really going on—if you bankrupt the mother before she can appeal and before you send her children to a foreign country, then she’s forced to just focus on trying to figure out how to see her children. To appeal a case like mine, it takes an enormous amount of time, and if there is anything even minimally wrong with the way the appeal is done, they can throw it out. Caring parents go in wanting what’s best for the kids, and are willing to negotiate, [but the way the system has been set up] is not in the best interest of the kids.”
On going from actress to activist being a difficult transition: “It has. To be honest, I’m ready to get back to work. I miss it—[acting] is something that I love; it inspires me. I’m ready to get on another series. It looks like I’m going to be doing a film, which is great. [The activism] has pulled all of my attention away from the life that I have built, in terms of my career, and the things that I love to do, and being a mother. But at the same time, if this is what I’m supposed to do in my life to help other women and other parents, then it’ll be worth it. I’ve always supported children’s organizations and women’s organizations, so it’s certainly aligned with what I believe in.”
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