Jessica Alba: Motherhood Can Be Overwhelming

Striking a sultry pose on the cover of the January issue of Australia’s In Style magazine, mom-of-two Jessica Alba opens up about her happy home life with her husband Cash Warren (“He’s a real hands-on dad,” she gushes) and their gorgeous girls Honor, 3, and Haven, 4 months. Though she says she’s mellowed since the early days of motherhood, the Spy Kids star admits that there are still moments when she feels in over her head.

On baby#2: “I’m more relaxed. Every sneeze or runny nose or little bump on the head that would have freaked me out before…I am more easygoing with that sort of thing. And the sense of knowing that I can get Haven to stop crying. It was all new with Honor and I wasn’t confident, and she could feel that so she continued to cry. That didn’t happen a lot, but when it happened I felt like I would crack.”

On trying to do it all: “It’s overwhelming. I don’t consider myself a lot of the time. I think a lot of mums do that, try to be everything to everyone all the time. I make mistakes. I do try to do way too much.”

On the most surprising about motherhood: “That I felt completely different. I really came into myself as a person. Before, I was always working for my identity. And then you take the focus off of yourself. I was probably—definitely—a bit of a narcissist. When you are young and an actor and driven, it’s a bizarre state of mind to be in at times. I was so focused on things that didn’t matter at the end of the day. Now I have what I do for a living in perspective. Working was everything to me, my entire identity, and once I got to step away from it, everything changed.”

On her husband: “He’s totally great and a real hands-on dad. He’s just such a nice, good person…His biggest thing is that he doesn’t like the idea of them growing up and dating! He’s kidding, but I can tell he’s kind of thinking of the future already.”

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