“I think that we can easily put expectations on our children just by comparing them to other children,” Jessica writes on her first blog for iVillage. “I obviously want to know that my daughter is healthy, that I’m doing the right thing in taking care of her and she’s getting all the nutrients that she needs.”
She adds: “But, I think that as parents, we do a lot of comparing and we don’t really focus on our child in their own individuality. Taking away all the comparisons is a really healthy way to parent — and not focus on the percentiles and all that kind of stuff.”
“We don’t have a nanny in the day, but we did have a night nurse in the beginning, and it’s really helped me stay sane,” the singer-actress-fashion designer writes. “Anybody that can be there [helps] — even if it’s a relative who can help you so you can sleep in the first couple weeks of being home from the hospital. You have much more of a clear head. It’s really hard in the beginning and nobody can prepare you for it. But I really did get lucky: Maxwell is able to sleep through the night!”
Being a first-time mom can be daunting at times, Jessica admits.
“I think all moms just want to make sure that they’re doing everything right, especially first-time moms. You’re going into it really not knowing what to expect even though there’s books written on it and you can try and get all the information you can. You really don’t know until you have them in your arms and you take them home — what choices and decisions you’re actually going to be faced with every day.”
Continue reading Jessica’s blog at iVillage…